Right vs. Wrong

Dear Child(ren),

In life there are moments that come up where you have to make what seems like an impossible decision. There will be moments, yes more than one, where you have to make choices that could stay with you for the rest of your life. These choices are indicative of what you believe is right in the world and what is wrong. You can ask people and they will give you their opinions of what you should do. Sometimes, it won’t even be just an opinion. Sometimes the choice will be so serious that people will tell you what is the right thing to do.

These choices are terrifying and they feel as if you are in a position where you might mess up the lives of other people including yourself. The pressure is overwhelming.

I would love to tell you that there is always a clear right and wrong answer but that would be a lie. I would love to make things simple for you by giving you a trick but there isn’t one. There is only you and your heart and your mind. There is only what you believe in.

These choices are paramount because these are often the moments that you will always look to when you define yourself as a person. You may hold on to these moments as a thing of pride or you may find it haunting you for the rest of your life. They will determine how you view yourself and, often, how others view you. They will also be a domino in a series of other choices that you will have to come face to face with.

People will tell you what is right and what is wrong. People will explain to you how you are supposed to view the situation and what you are supposed to do. I will not do that. Not now and not ever. There is no right and there is no wrong there is you and what your heart tells you. In these moments who we really are is exposed to the world. Instead of hiding and letting others tell you what you should be doing stand firm in what you believe is right. Hold on to your principles and have the utmost confidence that you are making the right decision.

Yes, down the road you may find yourself resenting the decision you made but if you made it knowing that this is truly what you believe is the right thing than you did not do something wrong. You did what was right in your eyes and that is what is right.

Everyone views the world differently. There are people who see certain crimes as non-criminal and others who view lifestyle choices as wrong. Nobody is wrong. You can not judge a person until you understand why they made the choices they did. You can not judge a person based on what they believe is right. You can only stand firm in what you believe and never let anyone strip that from you.

Life is hard. There is no getting around this but as hard as it gets at time never surrender to the will of others. Be 100% unashamedly yourself. Be proud and know that I am forever proud of you, no matter who you grow up to be.

Love you always,



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